19th December 2021


What is Gender Critical Coming Out Day?

Gender Critical Coming Out Day is an idea that a lot of people have talked about for a while. It’s a day to let others know you support the reality of biological sex, and that you are against an ideology that says gender identity can replace sex, in whatever way works for you. But it doesn’t mean you have to make any big announcements. There are lots of ways to “come out”.

Some people are able to be very open, while others might only be able to do something subtle, but together our collective actions all add up. So it’s important you only do what is safe and right for you. You might use a different term to describe your views, eg gender atheist, or no label at all. So, the label isn’t the important thing, and there’s no right or wrong way to engage in the issue; we all take different approaches.

The point of a single day focusing on “coming out” as gender critical isn’t to get into the detail of the arguments around the issue of gender identity ideology. It’s simply to show that there are others out there, women and men, who want to ask questions and be allowed to talk about the issue; to connect with people who might not realise you think the same as they do; to open the door to the issue for people who aren’t aware of it at all. It’s a chance to find safety in numbers as we all “come out” together.

We’ll be adding more info and links as we get nearer to the day, so keep checking back here. In the meantime, there’s some discussion about what the day is, and what it’s not, in the video below:

What can you do?

Everyone needs to assess their own situation as to how open they can be. Below, we list a range of things you can do, some simple and immediate and others that take a bit of preparation or planning. You don’t have to make any big announcement if that’s not right for you. There are subtle ways to signal to others with similar views. Also, you don’t need to be confrontational. This isn’t about arguing, complaining or trying to convince anyone of anything.

This site will be an evolving resource to give ideas and links to other sources of information such as knowing where you stand legally when it comes to holding GC views. If you’re already fairly vocal and public about your GC views, you can still do all of these things to make yourself more visible to others who are secretly GC and thereby provide a supportive hand to those “coming out”.

Obviously, Dec 19th is on a Sunday this year, and some of these actions are ongoing, so feel free to spill over into the Monday, and the rest of the week, and over the holidays.

1) Post on social media

Say something about the reality and importance of biological sex and use the hashtag #GenderCriticalComingOutDay or #SexNotGender and #IStandWithReality. Or simply pose a question relating to the issues. You don’t have to make an announcement about your position, just start a conversation with your question.

If you’ve been using an anonymous account to engage in the debate you need to bear in mind the value of maintaining anonymity. Sharing your real name and/or photo might be something some people want to do, but it’s not going to be right for everybody. Nobody should feel pressured into doing anything that isn’t right for them. Obviously, follow the usual rules about protecting yourself online and don’t disclose things like your address.

2) Change your bio or email signature

More and more, people are encouraged to add pronouns to bios, signatures, video call names. If the situation works, you could use a form of words that shares your views. For example:
“My pronouns are based on my biology”
“The pronouns you use about me are up to you”
“My pronouns are: up to you”
“My pronouns are reality-based”

Find out more about pronouns at work from Sex Matters

3) Be the billboard / buy some merch

There are a few different sites selling great merch with GC messages. You could wear a definition t-shirt to work or when meeting up with friends/family. You could start using a “Female” design mug in the office. It could be something more subtle like a Women Won’t Wheesht badge or ribbon. Or leave a copy of “Trans” or “Material Girls” on your desk. You don’t have to make a statement – others “in the know” will recognise the subtle signals and maybe start a conversation with you.
We’ve linked to some great online stores here.

4) Buy the book

With Christmas coming up you’ve got a range of great books on the issue you can buy for friends and family. If your friends and family aren’t big readers, then the merch mentioned above also makes great prezzies.
See our starter reading list of titles here.

5) Ask friends/family if they’ve heard of ‘gender critical

This could be a really quick way to connect with other GC people. If they’ve not heard the term already then you can give a quick explanation. You could point them in the direction of blogs and sites you’ve found helpful in understanding more about the issues. If you’re not able to buy GC books or merch, you could use the time over the holidays to start the conversations.

6) Speak to HR at work

Check what your workplace HR policies are for things like maternity leave and equal opportunities monitoring forms for recruitment. For example, do they use the correct language and protected characteristics from the Equality Act 2010, or have they introduced gender ideology terms and conflated sex with gender? You could also write to your HR department and ask them if they know about the issues or ask for an informal chat to find out more. Again, this shouldn’t be confrontational. Ask questions of HR and see what the response is. Remember, HR staff are people too, and generally working in HR for the right reasons, trying to make the workplace a fair and positive space. Also, many of them likely share gender critical views.

For more information about issues in the workplace, take a look at the Sex Matters website.

Don’t stop there!

While Gender Critical Coming Out Day is a focused point where we can all make some noise about this together, it doesn’t stop there. These actions are about continuing to be out as gender critical, to have the conversations and speak up. So, we’ll be following up with a series of Gender Critical Days of Action in 2022.

Why December 19th?

We’ve picked December 19th as Gender Critical Coming Out Day because this is the anniversary of the date J.K. Rowling posted the following tweet:

JK Rowling's tweet from 19 December 2019

This tweet inspired so many other people to stand up and speak out about how gender ideology negatively impacts women, children, and LGB people. Also, Lots of other tweets and actions have inspired people too. However, we’ve picked this one to be symbolic of whatever tweet, speech, action, event or news story brought this issue to your attention or inspired you.

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