How can you ‘come out’ with gender critical views?
Taking action doesn’t start and end on December 19th. Every day can be Gender Critical Coming Out Day, and you don’t even need to call it that. You don’t have to make any big announcement if that’s not right for you. There are subtle ways to signal to others with similar views. You also don’t need to be confrontational. This isn’t about arguing, complaining or trying to convince anyone of anything. You might be able to be very open about it, or you might only be able to do something subtle, but together our collective actions all add up.
Everyone needs to assess their own situation as to how open they can be, in terms of their safety or the impact saying or doing something might have. Below we list some suggestions of the types of things you can do, some simple and immediate and others that take a bit of preparation or planning. There’s no right or wrong way to engage in the issue; we all take different approaches. You should only do what is safe and right for you.
1) Post on social media
Say something about the reality and importance of biological sex. You could use the hashtags like #SexNotGender, #IStandWithReality, or #IStandWithJKRowling. Or simply pose a question relating to the issues. You don’t have to make an announcement about your position, just start a conversation with your question.
If you’ve been using an anonymous account to engage in the debate you need to bear in mind the value of maintaining anonymity. Sharing your real name and/or photo might be something some people want to do, but it’s not going to be right for everybody. Nobody should feel pressured into doing anything that isn’t right for them. Obviously, follow the usual rules about protecting yourself online and don’t disclose things like your address.
2) Change your bio or email signature
More and more, people are encouraged to add pronouns to bios, signatures, video call names. If the situation works, you could use a form of words that shares your views. For example:
“The pronouns you use about me are up to you”
“My pronouns are based on my biology”
“My pronouns are: up to you”
“My pronouns are reality-based”
Find out more about pronouns at work from Sex Matters
3) Be the billboard / buy some merch
There are a few different sites selling great merch with GC messages. You could wear a definition t-shirt to work or when meeting up with friends/family. You could start using a “Female” design mug in the office. It could be something more subtle like a Women Won’t Wheesht badge or ribbon. Or leave a copy of “Trans” or “Material Girls” on your desk. You don’t have to make a statement – others “in the know” will recognise the subtle signals and maybe start a conversation with you.
We’ve linked to some great online stores here.
4) Buy the book
There are a range of great books on the issue. You could read one in the staff room at work and see who asks you about what you’re reading. Or give them as gifts to friends and family.
See our starter reading list of titles here.
5) Ask friends/family if they’ve heard of ‘gender critical‘
This could be a really quick way to connect with other GC people. If they’ve not heard the term already then you can give a quick explanation, maybe an overview of what self-ID means, and point them in the direction of blogs and sites you’ve found helpful in understanding more about the issues.
6) Speak to HR at work
Check what your workplace HR policies are for things like maternity leave and equal opportunities monitoring forms for recruitment. Do they use the correct language and protected characteristics from the Equality Act 2010, or have they introduced gender ideology terms and conflated sex with gender? Write to your HR department and ask them if they know about the issues or ask for an informal chat to find out more. Again, this shouldn’t be confrontational. Ask questions of HR and see what the response is.
For more information about issues in the workplace, take a look at the Sex Matters website.